"One Good Deed Brings Another"
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"The Thrill of Victory"
From Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives: Formulas, stories, and insights
By Zelig Pliskin
Printed with Permission of Shaar Press

 

There are many levels of joy, ecstasy, and euphoria when it comes to the thrill of victory. Depending on the type of victory and how much it means to the individual who experiences it, to that degree will the joy be intensified. Most major victories happen rarely, often once in a lifetime. Worldwide these take the form of inter-city and international sports events. The joy of an upset victory in a World Cup, World Series, or Superbowl for players and fans is very intense. But with these events, the vast majority of people around the world either don’t care or were rooting for a team that didn’t make it.

Wouldn’t it be absolutely wonderful if you could have the thrill of a victory every single day? You can. How? By celebrating the victory of doing a major act of kindness that is difficult. The greater the difficulty, the greater the potential for the joy of victory.

Think of some people for whom you could do something beneficial, but you find this difficult to do. You might feel resentful towards them for one reason or another. You might feel envious. You might feel that they don’t do anything or enough for you. Whatever the reason, you find it difficult to do things for them.

Now visualize yourself doing a kind act for one of those people. See yourself going out of your way to help them in ways that make a significant difference in their lives. As you see yourself doing this, imagine a huge stadium full of people cheering for your victory. See and hear and feel the exuberant excitement and enthusiasm of one hundred thousand ecstatic fans. Or you can imagine a million people cheering for you in a parade down New York’s Fifth Avenue. Mentally repeat this over and over again. As you do, you will feel a great sense of victory as you contemplate how you will help the people you find difficult to help.

A variation of this is to imagine yourself doing something that would constitute a glorious and intense triumph. This can be in any area that you personally would feel euphoric excitement for such a splendid victory. Visualize this vividly until you actually feel the joy of that success. Studies have shown that our hormonal system has actual biochemical responses even though the victory is totally a figment of our imagination. Then see yourself doing a difficult act of kindness. The act might seem relatively small. But if it’s difficult for you, it’s a victory and worthy of celebration.

When you act externally with enthusiasm and excitement, your inner emotional state reacts like a mirror to your external patterns. So when you do acts of kindness that are difficult, act externally with the joy of a great victory. As you keep this up, the difficult will not only be easier, they will be a source of great joy in your life.

Right now think of three acts of kindness that would constitute a victory for you when you do them. Write down a commitment to do them. As you feel the thrill of victory, you will be motivated to continue doing more of these kind acts.

The author heard this story from a student:

I was living a rather boring existence. I shared my feelings with someone who was much more excited about life than I was. We compared notes and I saw that the general condition of our lives wasn’t that different.

"What about your life gives you so much excitement?" I asked him.

"I have the excitement of victories every single day," he told me.

"How do you manage that?" I asked.

"Each day I think of an act of kindness that would be difficult for me to do and I follow through," he replied. "This creates daily excitement for me. If more people realized how great their lives would be if they practiced this, we would live in a happier world. These are non-competitive victories where everyone involved is a winner."

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