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KIND WORDS
Saving Money The author wishes to remain anonymous
Edited by Shmuel Greenbaum
Printed with Permission of http://www.PartnersInKindness.org
A young man in my department finished his Ph.D. last month and as is the custom, he provided his going away party. (I dislike this custom because the student is now unemployed -- looking for his first post-doctorate job and this fellow is married with children and a mortgage to pay.)
The day before the party I offered to bring a cake and he explained that it is his duty to provide the party. I insisted on helping and he gratefully accepted. The next day I put three cakes on his desk. He told me this was too much and wanted to pay for them. I refused his offer.
After the party, members of the department came forward wanting to help buy a nice gift for our new Ph.D. They also wanted to share the expense of the cakes!
I felt like my actions promoted similar actions from others and it made me Very happy.
Saving Money
From Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives: Formulas, stories, and insights
By Zelig Pliskin
Printed with Permission of Shaar Press
One aspect of caring about people is respecting their property and protecting their money. Be mindful to return lost objects, to give suggestions about how to buy things economically, to prevent damage to possessions, and to prevent needless waste. Your caring for the material and financial concerns of another person is a matter of your spirituality.
If you see that someone has left his possessions unguarded in an area where they might be stolen, bring them to a safe place and then tell him that it’s wise to be more careful.
If you personally have had some loss through negligence or through the dishonesty of someone else, use this as an opportunity to help save others from similar loss. This can be a helpful reframe. "My personal loss puts me into a position where I can do an act of kindness for others." The more people you help, the greater the benefit you have from your original investment. True, this wasn’t an investment that you willfully decided on. But once you have had your experience, the distress will be minimized by the knowledge that you are able to help others in ways that you wouldn’t have thought of without your own loss.
If another person is upset over a certain loss that he had, you might be able to suggest to him ways that he could help others with his experience. You will be helping both the person who suffered this loss and all the people whom he will help by warning them to be careful. He will now be able to feel a bit better about his own loss and you are enabling other people to gain also.
If there is a special sale that you know will really save money, think of who you can contact that would benefit. This is especially important if you know that a specific person or family is challenged financially.
If you read an article that shows how to avoid loss of any kind, pass it on to others who could also benefit.
I heard this story from one of my students:
When I first married, an older couple came over to our house for a visit. They gave us a treasury of tips on how to make purchases as economically as possible. My husband and I were extremely grateful. We lived on a tight budget, and their advice and suggestions were exactly what we needed. Later on, I found out that they did this regularly to new couples who moved into their community.
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