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KIND WORDS The author wishes to remain anonymous Edited by Shmuel Greenbaum Printed with Permission of http://www.PartnersInKindness.org If you ever knew someone who didn¢t have an enemy in the world, that was my father-in-law. He never drove past someone waiting for a bus without stopping to ask if he could give them a ride; when they accepted his offer he did not tell the person where he was going, so they would not know if he was going out of his way or by how much. When my husband and I were married, he was at the wedding in a wheelchair because he had broken his hip the Friday before the wedding. So instead of going to the hospital he went to our wedding because my mother-in-law had passed away a year and a half before and he didn¢t want my husband to be at his wedding without a parent by his side. When I got asthma attacks he was beside himself; when I broke my arm and he was in the hospital and couldn¢t talk, he tapped my cast and stroked my face to comfort me; when I was upset he always said "don¢t take everything to heart." At his funeral people who did not know my father-in-law well could not understand why I cried so much over the loss of an in-law. They didn¢t realize that I was crying over the loss of one of my dearest friends. "Positive Role Models" From Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives: Formulas, stories, and insights By Zelig Pliskin Printed with Permission of Shaar Press Your role models create you. They are your vision of what you wish to do and to become. They provide a clear picture of the measures to be undertaken to get there. Helping someone find an empowering role model will make a major difference in his life. Some questions you can ask are: "Who do you admire and respect?" "What specifically do you admire and respect about that person?" "If you could be like any specific individual, who would you choose?" "If there were a few people who could teach you to be like them, who would you want to teach you?" "Who have you met or read about that you would like to emulate?" "Do you have a secret wish to be like any great person?" If the response is "no," you might ask, "If you would have a secret wish, what would it be?" Read biographies of great people. They expand your mental vision as to what is possible for you. After reading a biography, think about other people you know who would gain from reading it. You can have a powerful influence by telling someone, "I can see you being like this person in the future." If someone confides in you and says, "I see myself eventually being like this great person," take heed how you respond. Don¢t belittle or ridicule him if you feel that this picture is too unrealistic. It¢s almost a certainty that this person¢s having a role model will enable him to accomplish much more than he would if he didn¢t have this role model. A friend made the following observation: For a while I would ask each person I met, "Who is your role model?" An interesting pattern developed. Those who were most successful almost all immediately listed their role models. Those who were less successful either didn¢t have one or would say, "I would like to be like this person. But it¢s definitely out of my reach." This showed me the importance of influencing young people to find role models and of getting people to see that even if they won¢t exactly reach the level of their role models, following their role models will get them further than if they didn¢t have that picture in mind. ----------------------------------------------------------------- Speaking Engagements Baltimore, Maryland November 10 Silver Spring, Maryland November 11 College Park, Maryland University of Maryland November 11 If you know of any groups that are interested in having me speak, I don't charge a fee, other than travel from New York (if I am not already in your area). For further information, e-mail Shmuel Greenbaum at info@...
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