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KIND WORDS "You Look Great Just As You Are!" The author wishes to remain anonymous http://www.PartnersInKindness.org Edited by Shmuel Greenbaum Printed with Permission of I have always been thin, though physically in shape from a lifetime of activities and several years of military service. Since people always made fun of me about my appearance, I have always been sensitive about it. Due to a severe illness that began about four years ago, I have progressively dropped weight and am now at a dangerously low weight. Despite my extremely thin appearance, one of my friend's wives upon our first meeting had nothing but positive things to say about me and my appearance. I canąt forget when she told me, "You look great just as you are!" Those words were such a blessing to hear from someone; they allowed me to more fully heal and to accept myself. Her positive attitude about my appearance and her desire to help by throwing out ideas for treatments were more than I could have wished for. To feel totally human, accepted, and whole, even now, is the greatest gift anyone could have given me! Thank you! . _____________________________________________________________________________ From Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives: Formulas, stories, and insights By Zelig Pliskin Printed with Permission of Shaar Press A valuable principle to keep in mind is: Leave people feeling better about themselves as a result of having met you. Some people take pleasure in putting others down. It makes them feel more powerful to make others feel lower. In reality, the perpetration of such a crime lowers and demeans the perpetrator rather than the victim. The person who leaves others feeling better about themselves elevates himself. The question to ask yourself is, "What can I say to this person that will give him a positive feeling?" Be sincere in what you say. The goal is not to flatter or to give people a false sense of having a positive quality or attribute that they are missing. Rather the goal is to keep on developing your own "good eye" to see the positive in each person. When you develop positive feelings about other people, not only what you say will make them feel good but also how you say it. And not only your words will accomplish this, also the look on your face and your smile. Use enthusiastic expressions. Instead of saying, "Not bad," you can say, "That was really good." Instead of saying, "That was o.k.," you can say, "Youąre doing great." Instead of saying, "That seems right," you can say, "That was very insightful." Here are some other possibilities: * "I admire your kindness." * "I respect the way you handled that." * "You have a lot of courage to do that." * "That was magnificent of you." * "I find you an inspiration." * "There is a lot that I can learn from you." * "You are so kind to have said that to me." * "Your goodness is so much a part of you that you take it for granted." * "Every time I see you I feel happier." * "Whenever I meet you, I remember the kindness you have done for me." One of the author's students told him this story: "I am now embarrassed to admit that I used to take pleasure in putting people down. I was a low-paid clerk at a non-prestigious job. It gave me a sense of being one-up to always say things that implied that I am superior and this person is inferior. Even when I wasnąt on the job, whenever someone told me about an accomplishment of theirs, I would say something to the effect that this was minor in comparison with what others have done." "I changed my pattern after meeting someone who told me that he made a resolution to always leave people feeling better about themselves. I tried to belittle this person in a number of ways. Then the person asked me, "Tell me the truth. How would you like people to feel after an encounter with you?" This wasnąt really a question. We both knew what I was up to. From then on I realized that if I really want to feel good about myself, the way to do it is to make others feel good." ---------------------------------------------------------------- Visit our New Blog And Leave your Comments. http://partnersinkindness.blogspot.com/ ----------------------------------------------------------------
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In a world torn by war and hatred, A Daily Dose of Kindness is a testament to the goodwill that exists in the hearts of so many people who do acts of kindness for others without consideration of race or religion. These testimonies come from all kinds of people and from all over the world. Reading stories from A Daily Dose of Kindness about the goodness of friend to friend, family to family, and stranger to stranger can help to bridge the gaps between cultures and religions; it can transform a world filled with callousness and conceit into a world or caring; it can turn strangers into friends. The full title of the book is: A DAILY DOSE OF KINDNESS, "Stories from the Heart" (A Response to Terror), Book One: In Love with Israel All we need to publish it is a major sponsor! The sponsor will receive a dedication page in front of the book as well as a dedication on the cover.
Kind Words is a free weekly e-mail distributed by Partners In Kindness. The archive for Kind Words e-mails is located at: Although the content of these e-mails contains copyrighted material, Partners in Kindness allows users who register at our website to reprint them in print, on a website, or on an e-mail distribution list at no cost. If you have permission to reprint this e-mail, please ensure that you reprint the entire e-mail (including this notice). Names of people, places, and other details mentioned in these stories may have been changed to protect privacy. Kindness is like music, art, sports or any other discipline -- it can only be mastered with practice, training, and lots and lots of encouragement. That is what PartnersInKindness.org is trying to promote. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/PartnersInKindness For further information, please visit our Website http://www.PartnersInKindness.org e-mail: info@... ----------------------------------------------------------------- To un-subscribe send a blank e-mail to: Kindness-unsubscribe@... To subscribe send a blank e-mail to: Kindness-subscribe@...
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