"The Drive For Happiness"
The author wishes to remain anonymous
Edited by Shmuel Greenbaum
Printed with Permission of http://www.TraditionOfKindness.org

My daughter was going to a week long seminar in Tel Aviv to prepare for a year of volunteer service.

I took the hot rolls I prepared for her out of the oven and wrapped them tinfoil, but with all the rush, she forgot to take them as she ran out of the house with my husband.

I called her on her cell phone to see if they were close enough to come back. It was too late--my husband had just dropped her off at the bus stop. Her bus was scheduled to arrive in fifteen minutes and it would take twenty minutes for my husband to pick up the rolls and bring them back to her.

So I grabbed the hot rolls and ran out to hitchhike to the bus stop in order to bring them to her in time. Of course she told me not to bother, but the following story which happened to me twenty-five years ago was on my mind and it inspired me to do this special favor for her:

A few minutes after my father and I left home, on our way to New York, my mother, of blessed memory, noticed that I left behind a favorite sweater that she knew I would want during my second year of University.

There were no cell phones in those days, so she jumped into the car, hoping she would catch up to us, but of course she had no reason to think that would happen. About an hour-and-a-half after she left our home in Boston, she finally caught up to us at a rest stop in Connecticut that she and my father often used on their trips to New York. When we saw her, we thought we were hallucinating. But there she was, with my favorite sweater in hand.

With that story in mind I decided to go out of my way a bit to bring my daughter her hot rolls.

The neighbor who gave me a ride to the bus stop was on his way to Jerusalem and offered to take my daughter to the place that she needed to go to catch her bus to Tel Aviv.

While she was on her way to Jerusalem, and I was hitchhiking back to my house, she sent me a beautiful text message on her cell phone thanking me for my efforts.

I'm sure she will enjoy those fresh, hot, whole wheat rolls today.

"Learn From Every Kind Person You Meet"
From: Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives: Formulas, stories, and insights
By Zelig Pliskin
Printed with Permission of Shaar Press

"What has made you such a kind and giving person?" a major philanthropist was asked.

"I learned giving from my father. He wasn’t wealthy, yet helping other people financially gave him more enjoyment than spending money on himself."

"How did you develop such a kind personality?" a devotee to service to others was asked.

"I read the biographies of kind people and said to myself, ‘This is the way that I want to be.’"

"Why do you always invite guests to your home for meals?" a generous person was asked.

"I was once a stranger in a large city. Being invited to the homes of a few families taught me the value of this hospitality."

Each of us is different. Therefore we can all learn from others. Every person you encounter, infrequently or on a daily basis, has some manner, some patterns, some habits, some attributes that you can learn from. By modeling the strengths and positive qualities of as many people as you can, you develop yourself in ways that you could not do totally on your own.

By mirroring or modeling another person, you can plug into his positive patterns, states, and qualities. But if you mirror or model might you not also plug into his negative patterns, states, and qualities? Yes, you might. Therefore when you mirror and model, do so wisely. Think of the patterns that will make the most positive differences in your life and find role models. This applies to all areas of your life, especially when it comes to upgrading your level of being kind to other people.

First of all, take note of all those kind, sensitive, and helpful actions that people do for you. Remember what people have done for you already in the past. Try emulating those actions and continue practicing them again and again. Remember the kind words that others have said to you and pass them on to others.

Next, observe the kind words and actions that people say to others. Be on the lookout for kind actions that you witness being done for other people. These patterns can now become yours.

When you read stories about age old or recent kind acts, you are essentially learning how to become a better person. Look at each story as a source of inspiration and a practical guide on becoming a kinder person.

Interview people. Ask them, "What have people said to you that has enhanced your life?" and, "What are some things people have done for you?" Each answer is a valuable addition to your mental library.

You never stop learning. No matter how much you think you know, there is always more to learn. Imagine what it would be like to receive a daily report on 100 ways that people on our planet have acted kindly on the previous day. Each day you personally can do something that could be added to that list.

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