3.  Promising to not engage in this behavior in future, and if applicable, making literal or figurative amends for any damages>

 

 

The process of forgiveness it will go like this:

 

1. starts with a process of self-reflection to become aware of the damage you have done to yourself and others, in order to escape from or illuminate from the darkness of your mind in to the light of love, peace and acceptance.

2. then you have to experience and express feelings of regret, remorse, sorrow, sadness but not toward the things you have done to yourself or others, but to the harm and offense you have done to your self other to others. if you target and feel regret and remorse only to some particulars behaviors it is look like is not enough for managing future situations and behaviors in order to avoid doing the same things again. This is strongly need it, it is like you offended the other person, or you offended God when you have done something to yourself. It is much helpful, if you can convince the other person to express his/her feelings, and tell you what you have done to her/he trough your actions or behaviors. This is important so you could move the hate from your self or others who punish you, to or direct to the specific actions or behaviors. You have to hate that behaviors or actions, in order to not repeat them again.

3. Proposition/promising or Responsible Decision that you will not do the same things again. You have to express this decision, in order to respect it, and others could became aware of your decision and make an social contract.

4. You have to tell to others what you have done.

5. Engage in actions and behaviors that you decided at point 3.