Thanks Vicki I am glad that we have been a good resource for you and
that you have been pleased with the group. Some days I ask myself why
I spend the time putting this type of stuff together, and then I get
a comment like yours that makes it all worth while.
Thanks :)

Micah

--- In REBT-CBT-FORUM@yahoogroups.com, Vicky Harte <victoria_057@...>
wrote:
>
> Hi Micah,
>
> I for one and very happy that you have created this
> forum. I have never posted anything that could be
> considered slanderous and this is the internet.
>
> I have posted my "real issues"; but, it is nothing
> that will come back to haunt me. If something I
> posted can help someone else with PTSD or with
> irrational beliefs like my own, I am happy I posted.
>
> The responses I get to my posts from you guys really
> reinforces my "homework" and my therapist is impressed
> with the advice I get.
>
> Thank you for creating this avenue for people like me.
>
> vicky
>
>
> --- Micah Perkins <Micah.Perkins@...>
> wrote:
>
> > Nycki stated,
> > "Did u realize that ur justifcation
> > > for keeping it public was only for ur gain? Why
> > should ppl need to
> > watch
> > > wot they say, distorting the truth simply coz u
> > want this group
> > promoted so
> > > that someone'might' be able to give you business
> > or praise in the
> > future??"
> >
> > Ouch that hurt.
> > Yes, I can honestly say that part of my reason for
> > starting the group
> > a few years ago was to increase my visability on the
> > internet. I
> > realized that there are not very many REBT
> > therapists out there-
> > especially ones that are willing to spend the time
> > to add content to
> > the interent.
> > I was hoping that by signing my name to the posts
> > that people who
> > wanted to find an REBT therapist in Oklahoma could
> > do it a little
> > easier (Ironically, I still dont have a private
> > practice... so,
> > having exposure hasnt helped me in that reguard)
> > Also, as I stated before, I hoped that it would
> > facilitate meeting
> > some of you guys at REBT functions. (And sure I like
> > praise, but I
> > have also recieved my fair share of criticism as the
> > result of being
> > on the internet)
> >
> > Even though I have spent literally thousands of
> > hours devising
> > content on the internet and have put my name on this
> > site, my
> > website, and on my podcast I have not earned a dime
> > for all of this
> > (except for the $5 in Amazon gift certificates that
> > I recently earned
> > for putting links to books on my website. I get 4%
> > of sales IF a
> > person buys the book... I hope to earn a whole $6
> > this year which
> > will go toward buying more books so that I wont have
> > to keep using
> > the same references in all of my materials).
> >
> > I do not have a private practice, I do not have
> > books to sell. Part
> > of me thinks I am nuts spending all of my time doing
> > all of this for
> > free. There have been times when I have considered
> > saving the roughly
> > $30 I spend each month on internet stuff and the
> > roughly 15 hours a
> > month I spend making content. But, it all comes down
> > to my passion of
> > teaching others about REBT.
> >
> > If the group remains public or not will not vastly
> > affect my own
> > internet exposure.It simply was a way to promote the
> > group so that
> > others could find and benefit from suggestions from
> > other REBTers.
> >
> > When it comes to privacy on the internet. In this
> > day and age, I
> > honestly did not realize that people would honestly
> > believe that any
> > post that they made would be 100% private. If
> > nothing else it goes
> > out to 500+ strangers. I honestly believed that
> > people would weigh
> > what they wanted to post before they did it. I also
> > realized that
> > people could very easily post under assumed names.
> > Therefore, I dont
> > believe that it is fair to say that I am more
> > interested in my own
> > self promotion than the privacy of others. I figured
> > that each
> > individual is responsible for his or her own privacy
> > comfort.
> >
> > Although I am not a lawyer, I dont believe that
> > there has been
> > anything illegal or unethical going on, on this
> > site. Although I
> > would not share client information (except past
> > clients on rare
> > occassions), any time anyone has spoken about a
> > client there has been
> > no identifiable information given. As far as I know
> > that meets all of
> > the ethical requirements. Even though Diane (for
> > example) may have
> > discussed some client's issues, I dont think any of
> > us could say that
> > she is talking about John Smith that lives in X city
> > in X country.
> > Now, if her client happened to find the post and was
> > offended, then
> > that is another matter, and one that she would have
> > to deal with.
> > Then she may decided to stop posting about that
> > particular client.
> >
> > But, posting in and of itself, (when not including
> > identifiable
> > information) I believe, is not wrong. But, it is
> > proabably a good
> > suggestion to email others directly about
> > suggestions for clients
> > rather than posting them to the group. But, I do not
> > believe that she
> > (or any of us) have ethically done anything wrong.
> >
> > The only time that I believe that we boardered on
> > some illegal stuff
> > was some of the comments made during the start of
> > the Ellis, AEI
> > controversy which was starting to get rather
> > slandorus. I believed
> > that I did right by stepping in and asking the
> > person to stop. If
> > they would have continued then I would have banned
> > them.
> >
> > Although the current poll suggests that people do
> > not mind having the
> > posts made public, I will immediately delete all of
> > the posts in the
> > archieve. That way no one will need to worry about
> > anything that they
> > have posted in the past.
> >
> > I will also put a warning lable on the description
> > page.
> > Steve, since you are an IT guy, if you have any
> > suggestions for
> > particular wording I would be open to it.
> >
> > The purpose of this group is to help others, not to
> > cause more pain
> > and missery.
> >
> > Micah
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > --- In REBT-CBT-FORUM@yahoogroups.com, "Nycki"
> > <nycki@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Micah..
> > >
> > > So ure saying that u want to minimize the comfort
> > and safety of ur
> > current
> > > members in an effort to promote urself? Did u
> > realize that ur
> > justifcation
> > > for keeping it public was only for ur gain? Why
> > should ppl need to
> > watch
> > > wot they say, distorting the truth simply coz u
> > want this group
> > promoted so
> > > that someone'might' be able to give you business
> > or praise in the
> > future??
> > >
> > > While u may feel that wot u share isnt any ethical
> >
> > violation...others
> > > (officials & laypersons) may. Its not about wot
> > we can justify;
> > its about
> > > wot the majority of society sees is appropriate.
> > Sharing
> > information of
> > > others to promote your future business isnt
> > respectful or
> > professional.
> > >
> > > My beef is with these posts being able to be
> > accessed by ppl who
> > are doing a
> > > google search..who are not even looking for this
> > group. If someone
> > who is
> >
> === message truncated ===
>
>
>
>
>
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