This thought has been gnawing at me for several days now, and I'd
appreciate the input of other INFPs like me as well as other NF types
(NTs, SJs, and SPs are also welcome to contribute any thoughts they
might have even though I think NFs are best qualified to answer this
question)...

One of the areas of my life which has been the greatest source of
disappointment for me over the years has been my inability to find a
suitable romantic partner with whom I can share my life (or at the
very least, a good few years of it). Some of this I chalk up to being
an introvert -- even though I live in a large city, I find it taxing
to go out and socialize especially considering the fact that my job
requires me to be around other people all day. However, a few days
ago, it hit me that maybe there's more to it...that maybe my iNtuitive
aspect causes me problems as well. One of the things that frustrates
me the most about being an INFP is the fact that it's so easy for me
to imagine how people, things, situations could be better than they
are. While I see this as being a good thing for the most part, I also
see it as being a curse as well as a blessing -- there are moments
when I feel deeply disillusioned about life because it so often
differs from the way I can imagine it being or would like it to be,
and I sometimes worry that this is turning me into a cynic. (I for one
don't believe that cynics don't believe in anything -- I think they're
*afraid* to believe in anything because they're romantics at heart
who've seen one too many dreams turn to dust). The particular problem
that I have with romantic relationships is that the men who I find
attractive are usually the ones who are not especially good to me or
good for me, while I don't generally feel attracted to the ones who
would be good for me. I know that one reason why I find it hard to
walk away from some of the ones who would be bad for me is because I
can imagine how it *could* be -- there are times when I have to remind
myself to stay focused on what IS since "what could be" might not
(indeed, probably will not) manifest itself. Do other INFP's and/or
NFs have this problem, or is it just me? I find it hard to believe
that other personality types experience this kind of problem, since
SJs and SPs tend to be focused in the here-and-now, and NTs (I think)
would find it easier to let go of these issues since they're inclined
to be more rational even though they're iNtuitive.

Is there anyone on this site who's still interested in talking about
type, or have the spammers effectively hijacked the joint?