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Dating should be taken for what’s it real purpose
is. However, most people see dating as the end of
the activity rather than the means. What I meant
was, there are some dating people who after the
1st or 2nd date seem to feel like both parties
relationship is going somewhere. Instead they
should see the date as a gradual getting to know
process up to the point where both feel they are
right for each other. Dating should be free of
expectations to prevent disappointments. When you
immediately date a person expecting that you will
be right for each other, you will have a larger
heartache.

If you think that you have done right by your own
rule book but the relationship has collapsed after
a couple of dates. Here are a couple of reasons
that may have happened.

1. Love is really rare and complicated. Love at
first sight really rarely happens. In some cases,
the head becomes the master of the heart. This is
not bad really. However, after the first date, the
head really says that this person is not really
what I expected him or her to be. The heart can no
longer do a thing. People who have made up their
mind to a certain point will have a hard time to
be convinced. No matter how good the 1st date may
be, if the other party feels you are not right,
it’s pretty much over. So don’t expect, just go
out as friends.

2. Alcohol clouds judgment. When you drink too
much alcohol you may think that you had a fun
date. Instead you may juts not be noticing that
your date was just too anxious to go home. Lessen
alcohol on the 1st date and instead observe very
well the way the date is going.

3. Some people carry emotional baggage. When a
person carries an emotional baggage you will have
a hard time figuring out what this person really
wants. That person could still be afraid to fall
in love again or unclosed previous relationship
problems. If you are a person with emotional
baggage, don’t disappoint your date; try to be
upfront about it. It may not be easy, but at least
the other person will know something.

4. You are just being used to bring up the old
flame they had with their past relationships. This
may seem a bit harsh, but it does happen. Some
people will use you to see if their previous
relationship will be jealous and would really want
to be back with them.

5. The last problem might be you. You have just
become too excited and jovial about the whole date
thing. You may have though that you both enjoyed
the date, but in reality, you are the only one
enjoying it. Be very observant.

Dating problems are as complex as solving
Einstein’s theories. Instead of feeling low and
depressed about what happened. Try to learn from
them and be wiser the next time out. The more
experience you’ll get, the better you’ll be
eventually.



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