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Most youngsters believe they will fall in love one
day with their soul mate and then everything will
be just perfect until one of them dies in 50+
years. This is a fairy tale and it is not
realistic. Falling in love is easy; staying in
love takes hard work and effort on both parts.
That is the reality and something all young
couples should realize before they ever marry.
Knowing this up front could help many marriages
stay in tact and keep many couples together
forever.

How is Love Work?
Love is wonderful and that connection you feel for
the other individual will only grow stronger and
deeper each year if you foster the love and help
it grow. However, if you stifle love it will burn
out and your relationship will fail. So, you are
probably wondering what you can possibly do to
keep love alive. The answer is to simply keep
doing the things you did when you first fell in
love.

The most important thing you can do is to always
consider your other half. Think of their feelings
before you say or do something and make your mate
your number one priority. When you do this all of
your other priorities will fall in line behind
your relationship and you will be happy knowing
that the needs of your spouse are being met. Too
many times as relationships grow older spouses
stop thinking of one another or treating their
spouse like they used to. This results in the
other spouse feeling as if they don\'t matter like
they once did and might doubt your feelings for
them. When there are doubts in the relationship
all kinds of things can happen, so be sure to
foster love by focusing on your spouse on a daily
basis. Examples can be noticing when your spouse
is really busy or stressed and doing something to
help relieve the tension. This might be cooking
dinner, taking the kids to school, doing the
laundry, or simply giving a nice massage. None of
these things take a lot of effort, but they can
make the difference in the way your spouse feels
about you.

Another way to stay in love forever is to call
your spouse every day. I know, you think this is a
waste of cell phone minutes because you see each
other all the time, but how much time do you have
just for yourselves? If you are like most couples
probably not a lot so simply dial up your spouse
on your way to or from work, during your lunch
hour, or sneak out of a meeting for a quick call.
This will spike your romance level, make your
spouse feel incredible, and these great feelings
will rub off in your work, in your personal life,
and with all of your other relationships as well.
It is amazing what a loving phone call can do.

Many couples that make it to their Golden
Anniversary and longer say the key to success is
not only love, respect, honor, fidelity, and all
of those important things, but also making alone
time for one another. Once kids enter your lives
alone time is difficult to find. However, if you
plan a date night as a couple, no kids or friends,
once a week or once a month and always stick to it
you will find your relationship stays stronger and
you will look forward to that day all week or all
month. Nurturing your love by demonstrating it is
important and having a few moments to unwind and
connect with your spouse might mean the difference
in a long term relationship or ending up in
divorce court. Have you ever heard couples say
they just drifted apart? Don\'t let that happen to
you and plan regular date nights!


Don\'t forget that while your actions are
important your words are as well. Both men and
women need to hear how their spouse feels about
them on a regular basis so tell them. If you are
in love you can tell your spouse that as often as
you like and it will always be appreciated. The
last thing you want to do is begin a relationship
expressing your feelings and then as time goes by
just assume your spouse knows how you feel. This
will cause doubts and that is the last thing you
want to do. Simply tell your wife or husband that
you love them, appreciate them, need them and it
will make a world of difference in your
relationship.

There are obviously many ways you can stay in love
for the long haul and it really does take work and
a conscious effort to do so. However, if you are
really in love and have a family then it is worth
the effort to make your relationship work.



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