Hi,
I was having trouble to unserialize the data received from Yahoo Answers. I was
getting Class_incomplete errors when tryin to unserialize. Then while tracing
through the problem. I found that there is a problem with the data in the Yahoo
Answer Service.
I tried this query below to check the data received in XML where I found the
root cause of the problem. If we notice the xml data - there are few instances
where the tag of chosen answerer nick is jus standalone "<ChosenAnswererNick/>".
So the same data if retrieved in PHP serialized format is unserialized gives an
error within the data.
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<Subject>
Was it my fault the relationship went bad in the first place?
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<Content>
Ok. My relationship has ended. 8 years and its over. I feel like i tried really
hard, heres my question. I had 3 children when we met and we had one together 2
years later. Our sex life was great in the beginning, however this man always
told little white lies, traveled away a lot but i always felt like he loved me.
He was not great with the kids but acceptable i suppose. Just after my 4 th was
born our sex life almost died, same old reasons, i was a tired housewife he
worked away and i was resentful because i was always stuck at home, bout the
only time we got on well was when we had time out together without the kids
around. So as the relationship progressed more little lies came out, you know
like when would call and he wouldnt answer his phone till the third time and
hed say he was at work but really at a mates or at the pub he spend thousands on
the pokies and generally did bugger all around the home, we were behind in the
rent and things were going downhill..but i loved him and he loved me. 7 years
into the relationship, he had an illness which required surgery, he was off work
for months i looked after him and actually enjoyed it...isnt that pathetic, i
finally felt i had some form of control and i liked him being around. But he was
a grumpy man, tired all the time, even before he was sick he was always lazing
around, went to work when he decided to, never paid tax, didnt do chores, was
angry toward the kids..blah blah blah...so...in the end, while he was away i met
someone else and we hit it off, nothing happened and i felt terrible, so i told
him, he needed to stop working away, come home and be with his family. That
statement made no impact on him until i told him i was having feelings for
someone else. With that he quit work, came home and decided to spend his time at
home checking my emails, reading my messages on my phone and calling me to see
where i was every 5 minutes..this ended our relationship for 3 months and
duriing that 3 months i slept with the new man. I felt so bad that the first
thing ii did was tell him.....we ended up getting back together. That lasted a
year, during that year he minded the kids at night while i went to work, minded
them while i was at college and went to work occasionally himself, he complained
that he was doing all the work and getting nothing in exchange, he was angry and
miserable, and i was angry with him because he wouldnt trust me, he made life
hell. I finally snapped and one day drug tested him and that tested positive for
speed and ice. I offered help, kindly, didnt over react, he said it was only
recreational, we fought he left i begged him to come back, he wouldnt, stating
that he couldnt handle me because i was an abusive cow, 3 days later he said he
was ready i said no way. Since then i have found out he is an addict and he
blames it all on me, my actions pushed him to drugs and i worked him too hard.
He felt unloved and unappreciated. Its been 7 months and my heart has been
broken over and over..in that 7 months he has only been to take the kids out
once, the rest of the time he will miss planned visits because of so called
work, and if he does come over he will spend the time questioning the kids about
what mummy has been doing and who with. I am sad. My question is this.....should
i try again to make this work, give him another shot, pay him more attention,
try to understand more, he says he will change when i show him more love and be
the women i used to be.
I have a chance at a new life with a new man, i have actually enjoyed being on
my own for the past 7 months, i have found strength in myself, i believe ii am
ready to move on, the only thing that gets me sometimes is the fact that if i
had of been more loving toward him he may have been a different man...maybe i
started the ball rolling? I dunno im sick of wondering...i know this has been a
long story but really its just a little of the whole story, thanks for taking
the time to read through. Should i just move on now?
Thanks for your great answers and reading such a long question....Its been so
hard and i have had so many thoughts going through my head over and over
again...i just wanna know that i have done my best in this relationship, i never
believed it would end and its hard coming to terms with the shock of finding him
out to be an addict, i think i knew for a while but i was too scared to find out
the truth, i loved this man a lot and he still has his good points, everybody
does. I know i cant change him, i know hes gotta change himself and i feel as
if i should move on, im so sick of being stuck. Thanks again
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<Date>2009-05-02 18:21:48</Date>
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<ChosenAnswer>
"Should i just move on now?" Yes.
You may not have loved him well enough, but it would have been nearly impossible
when he CHOSE to spend most of his time away from you, using "work" as an
excuse, even though he was spending time relaxing by himself - "...more little
lies came out... he'd say he was at work but really at a mates or at the pub..."
Add to that the fact that he would spend thousands on gambling while not meeting
the bills at home "...he spend thousands on the pokies and generally did bugger
all around the home, we were behind in the rent and things were going
downhill...".
Then he was "...a grumpy man, tired all the time, even before he was sick he was
always lazing around, went to work when he decided to, never paid tax, didn't do
chores, was angry toward the kids..blah blah.." and it sounds like he never was
invested in your marriage or the family.
When his illness caused the situation to become reversed he "...complained that
he was doing all the work and getting nothing in exchange..." even though it was
fine with him when it was you doing the hard work, even though you were both
working and attending school at the time?
Then he's using drugs and blaming you for his choice? Sounds like nothings
changed. He did always blame you for all the miseries in his life anyway.
Then he uses this as an excuse to (once again) abandon his family and his
obligations, and you want to know if its really your fault, and if you should
give this yet another try?
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<Question id="20090502180915AAHTcah" type="Answered">
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<Subject>
LGBT: Have you ever felt like maybe you were born too many years later than you
should have been?
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<Content>
Like, I find 80's music awesome. I don't really like to hang out with kids my
age, but I do for the fact that, most of my friends are that age (the ones from
school). Everyday, I am finding out something new about those decades, and the
music that existed then, it hits me right in the face. Who knows, maybe one day,
I'll meet someone who feels the same way as me, and I'll introduce them to the
90's music and they'll feel just the same way as I do. I mean after all, I do
have like 8+ nieces and nephews, lol. =)
Denver, you don't know, but you're working your way back into my blocked box...
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 18:09:15</Date>
<Timestamp>1241312955</Timestamp>
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20090502180915AAHTcah
</Link>
<Category id="396546301">Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered</Category>
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<ChosenAnswer>
So you've 'noticed' "SOMETHING"...huh? You should take some Philosophy classes
and 'think on it some more'...it gets 'REAL' interesting...especially if you
have a professor who 'appreciates' "MORE"...
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<Question id="20090502171423AAHEt7n" type="Answered">
<Subject>Why wasn't the Atheist invited?</Subject>
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<Content>
Jeremiah 19: This is what the Lord says: 9 I will make them eat the flesh of
their sons and daughters, Deuteronomy 28: 56 The most gentle and sensitive woman
among youso sensitive and gentle that she would not venture to touch the ground
with the sole of her footwill begrudge the husband she loves and her own son or
daughter 57 the afterbirth from her womb and the children she bears. For she
intends to eat them secretly. 2 Kings 6:26 As the king of Israel was passing by
on the wall, a woman cried to him, "Help me, my lord the king!" 28 Then he asked
her, "What's the matter?" She answered, "This woman said to me, 'Give up your
son so we may eat him today, and tomorrow we'll eat my son.' 29 So we cooked my
son and ate him. The next day I said to her, 'Give up your son so we may eat
him,' but she had hidden him."
Did she hide him away far a snack later on when no one was looking?
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 17:14:23</Date>
<Timestamp>1241309663</Timestamp>
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20090502171423AAHEt7n
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<Category id="396545163">Religion & Spirituality</Category>
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<ChosenAnswer>
The atheist was invited, but didn't show up because they didn't smother them in
barbecue sauce.
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<Question id="20090502163449AAgB7RC" type="Answered">
<Subject>Does my writing suck?</Subject>
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<Content>
I'm writing this story and I want to know if it sucks.
Now I am a HUGE fan of criticism so please don't be afraid to speak your mind.
No sugar coated comments. lol.
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It was late at night and Derek was exhausted, so exhausted that his eyelids were
heavy and ready to close. He rubbed his eyes with his index finger and forced
himself not to drift off into sleep. He had to stay up. He could not sleep.
That was completely out of the question. There was a test tomorrow and he needed
to study for it since he didn't study all week.
Cramming it all in at the last minute was Derek's personal strategy to success.
He turned a page over in his text book, seeing how the words were getting tinier
and tinier as he continued to read. God this is pointless, Derek thought to
himself as he rubbed his forehead. He hated studying and if he could he would
never study in his life. However, he knew that if he didn't study he would
surely fail that test which would ultimately lead to him faling his freshman
year of college, and he couldn't afford that. Derek actually wanted to be
successful in life.
He looked away from his text book and frowned. There was absolutely no one in
the library at the moment - well there was a guy sitting on the floor while
reading a magazine - but besides him, Derek was the only person there.
---------------
Okay, I didn't post a lot, but that's because I don't want to bore anyone! I
just would like to know how my sentence structure is.
Is my writing choppy and hard to read?
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 16:34:49</Date>
<Timestamp>1241307289</Timestamp>
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20090502163449AAgB7RC
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<Category id="396545299">Books & Authors</Category>
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<ChosenAnswer>
much better than most of the inane drivel that i read on here, so please
continue.
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<Question id="20090502160609AAKyueZ" type="Answered">
<Subject>can stress make a period late?</Subject>
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<Content>
i been very stressful lately... i can not quites remeber when i had it last time
.... i been very sick and stressful with college exams and i was just wondering
can it come late because of the stress on my body?
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 16:06:09</Date>
<Timestamp>1241305569</Timestamp>
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<Link>
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20090502160609AAKyueZ
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<Category id="396545203">Women's Health</Category>
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<ChosenAnswer>
YES.
I remember a few weeks ago, I wasn't getting my period, and my boyfriend and I
were starting to freak out, we thought I was pregnant, and he told me to relax
(which sounds hard when you are sexually active and you're not getting your
period!). Luckily, the next day I saw blood in the toilet. I now look forward to
periods! I'm blessed for every single one I get now. Sure, they are a drag, but
it sure beats having a child when you can't afford one! (Plus I really don't
want kids. It's a personal reason.)
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<Question id="20090502160343AAbDEu7" type="Answered">
<Subject>Whats the best zombie movie?</Subject>
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<Content>
I've really been getting into zombie movies lately.
What are the best ones?
Which ones do yall like the most?
And which ones are the cheesiest, that I shouldn't waste my time on.
The ones I've seen already are:
Resident Evil Trilogy
Shaun of the Dead
28 Days Later
I've seen I Am Legend too.
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 16:03:43</Date>
<Timestamp>1241305423</Timestamp>
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20090502160343AAbDEu7
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<Category id="396545138">Movies</Category>
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<ChosenAnswer>
What are the best ones? Night of the Living Dead, Dawn of the Dead (both the old
and the new), Day of the Dead, 28 days later, Shaun of the Dead, Pet Semetary,
Zombi 2 (coz of the awesome shark biting scene), City of the Living Dead and the
Re-animator for the gore, Dead Alive (aka Braindead) for being the movie with
the most blood ever, more recently, there is Diary of the Dead which is a
documentary-style movie, REC is also very scary and became the basis for the
inferior Quarantine
Which ones do yall like the most? Dawn of the Dead
And which ones are the cheesiest, that I shouldn't waste my time on - There are
so many crap zombie films like Premutos, Dead Snow is upcoming and it doesn't
look nice, Redneck Zombies, Children of the Living Dead, The Incredibly Strange
Creatures Who Stopped Living and Became Mixed-Up Zombies, Pet Semetary 2.
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<Question id="20090502155632AAm1vL2" type="Answered">
<Subject>What was your favorite Birthday Memory?</Subject>
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<Content>
Mine was today when I came home from the supermarket to find that my closest
friends and family were hiding in my house to suprise me on my Birthday! :)
Lol and after the party ended, My best friends also said they were coming back
later tonight "Kiddnap" me to a Party that they're planning at an unknown
location lol! Now I'm curious about tonight and wondering what your favorite
Birthday Memory is :P
- Avi
Haha, Being "Kidnapped" is fun!
Me and Arie (my Twin) were taken to a friend's house for a night of fun games,
delicious cake and a LOT of people lol!
- Avi
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 15:56:32</Date>
<Timestamp>1241304992</Timestamp>
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<Category id="396546444">Polls & Surveys</Category>
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<UserNick>Aphrodite Octavia (Call me Avi!)</UserNick>
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<ChosenAnswer>
hahhahhahaha, i remember my twin's hair caught on fire when me and her were
blowning out the candles!!!
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<Question id="20090502155012AAN3WA7" type="Answered">
<Subject>poll: can we talk later on da phone?</Subject>
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<Content>
im alone with Raquel. we are looking 4 people to talk to cuz therez nobody
home...
~ Shiloh
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 15:50:12</Date>
<Timestamp>1241304612</Timestamp>
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<ChosenAnswer>Sure, I might pick up.</ChosenAnswer>
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<Question id="20090502153259AAT5WCB" type="Answered">
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<Subject>
My parents are dependent on me and I'm financially dependent on them..what to
do?
</Subject>
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<Content>
I am 25 years & still living with my parents. I graduated college last year and
my life & parents life has completely changed since Dec2008 when my sister who
was 26 and working overseas passed away. Now i have become an only child. It
has always been stressful at home bc my parents have always given me a strict
curfew (12am) things has gotten worse now.
i had a retail job but quit after my sister passed away so that i can help out
at home and be with my mother who is a stay at home mother. Now its been 5
months and i feel its time i get my life back on track...but im lacking the
motivation. My parents are in emotional need of me and me in financial need of
them.
My parents have been paying my bills and school loans and it makes me feel very
grateful with my parents and i hope to someday give back to them as much as they
given to them. But at the same time im not happy with my situation, i feel
irritated that i cannot be financially independent.and that i graduated with my
B.A.and dont have a job.
Im so frustrated!! i am now looking for a job and trying to get my life on
track but its hard..I hardly go out bc i feel my parents need me too much. I
help them out as much as i can, and my parents dont have many sincere friends so
if they go out it usally includes me going out with them. For example today is
Saturday and instead of going out with friends like a normal 25 yr old would do
im here with my parents trying to decide where we are going to go. I feel
irritated, and i have this huge thing that makes me feel responsible and bad if
i leave them for too long. I wish they had more friends, activities so that
their world wouldnt revolve what seems like me. I want to go to Vegas with my
bf but i know my parents wont let me stay out for a whole weekend, even if i
wouldnt be spending their money bc my bf would be paying. they just get so
paranoid when im not home, or out late...Ahhh
ever been in my situation, any advice, i know i need to make changes..first get
a job!! but what else can i do, please help. p.s. i turn 26 in july ;(
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 15:32:59</Date>
<Timestamp>1241303579</Timestamp>
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<ChosenAnswer>
It sounds like your parents are not coping really well with the loss of their
daughter and have become overprotective of yourself.
While at first you wanted to be the good daughter, it is now becoming too much
of a strain on yourself.
Understandable as everybody copes with loss on an individual base.
You really need to get a job to be able to get some finances for yourself: that
will help you get a place for yourself near your job. Then set a family time for
your parents and one for yourself.
If you want to stay out late, let them know that you will be late because you
want to spend some time with your friends and where you are going if they ask.
There might be some resistance: talk it out in a calm way. Note that they could
call you selfish. If so tell them that you understand their grief but that the
passed events can not make you put your own life in a glass cabinet and that you
are also grieving but need to live.
Ask them what they would like to do on your family time or think of something
fun to do with them yourself.
Try to get your mum to join a local hobby club or learn a new skill.
My mum is 67 and living on her own in Belgium while myself and my sister moved
to the UK: she went on a computer course, is learning French and has learned to
make advanced Belgian lace.
She is also always busy with card making and gardening.
She misses us a lot but we speak on the phone almost all the time.
She sometimes comes and sees us in the UK and we sometimes go back home
ourselves.
She does feel lonely and misses us a lot but understands that we need to make
our own lives.
I understand that and try to accomodate that: we have become even closer since
we are living far away.
You just need to take the first step: they will come around. Let them know that
you are safe.
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<Question id="20090502151215AAHebYF" type="Answered">
<Subject>can dogs have mental behavoir problems?</Subject>
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<Content>
well, its kind of a sad story. we found a cute puppy in the streets and my son
picked him up, so we asked ourselves why would a nice puppy be lost or thrown
away, so we took her in. the thing is that a few days later we found out that
the puppy was not normal, she would go crazy and do the merry go round for a
long while and then run like crazy and destroy everything, she would rip things
tear down things, chew on everything and attack our other animals, she would
also bring dirt after digging so much and garbage all around the house, its like
a non stop tornado. so we couldn't deal with her and had no control over her, so
I gave it to some neighboors that had a bunch of kids and they kept the dog for
a few days and then dumped the dog on back to the streets and she ended home
again. we couldn't deal with the puppy so I wanted to call the animal shelter
and my mom (which is sick and cant take care of the dog, neither my son who is
too young and I travel alot) said not to call the shelter because they will kill
the dog or starve him to death and torture her (because this is not in the US,
its in PR) and the animal shelter system is a dump and known for animal cruelty,
but I didnt know this until my mom told me. so we ended up putting the dog on
the streets near a nice neighborhood to see if someone can really take care of
her. I think this was not a normal dog. can dogs be autistic or have a extreme
bad behavior that you cant deal with them, like a psycho dog or something?
vets are too expensive over here and we tried to put her on a leach but she
would somehow get loose or try to choke a few times and we saved her life. we
just had no control and my mom says this dog may have extreme mental behavior
problems. is this true?
nikko not to disrespect you, but I didnt want to throw the dog out. but if your
mom was in a wheel chair for life and cant barely move, your son was 3 and you
have to travel for months and your son its in daycare with other relatives that
cant have or care for dogs and your mom its with a nurse who does not feed dogs
because thats not her job, then how were we suppose to take care of it. this is
not heavenly US or a modern country so put yourself in my life and shoes and see
if you can either let go of the dog to be free, put her in a shelter to get
tortured or starve the dog to death because you cant take care of it. choose of
the 3 options and please get back to me.
Yodel: PR is a US territory but its way different in terms of caring for
animals, well once there was an outrage in the news because the shelters were so
full of animals that people didnt want that some were thrown freely to the
streets and some were put alive in bags and thrown down a huge bridge and drawn
to death, it was the most cruel and heartless thing I ever heard and saw in the
news, so shelter its not an option.
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Short answer- yes, dogs can indeed have "mental" problems akin to what we'd
label a "psychosis" in a human. It's fairly rare. I've seen it once, in a Toy
Poodle when I worked for a veterinarian. Constant bizarre, unsettling
behavior....fluctuating from rage to hysteria to "cuddly" affection and right
back to full-blown rage....all within a span of 5 minutes, with no triggers.
I'll never forget it.
It's hard for anybody to accurately "label" the behavior you saw from the little
stray dog. Could have been a mental problem....brain damage from a car injury;
brain damage from consuming something poisonous- both reasonable hazards for a
stray dog. Could have been born that way.
It could have also been an extreme example of a behavior problem compounded by
hyperactivity. A dog with no training and a "rough" upbringing....it's very
hard to say without seeing her behavior, whether she was just stressed and
confused from her lifestyle, lacking direction and training, or if she was
genuinely "mentally disturbed".
It's a shame there wasn't any safe place you could take her....I didn't know PR
was so far behind the US in terms of animal care standards? Are there any
independent dog rescue groups in PR? Maybe if you could find enough dog-loving
people in your community you could organize an effort to either clean up the
shelter or form a volunteer-run dog rescue group. Just an idea if you're
feeling ambitious today :)
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Was it my fault the relationship went bad in the first place?
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Ok. My relationship has ended. 8 years and its over. I feel like i tried really
hard, heres my question. I had 3 children when we met and we had one together 2
years later. Our sex life was great in the beginning, however this man always
told little white lies, traveled away a lot but i always felt like he loved me.
He was not great with the kids but acceptable i suppose. Just after my 4 th was
born our sex life almost died, same old reasons, i was a tired housewife he
worked away and i was resentful because i was always stuck at home, bout the
only time we got on well was when we had time out together without the kids
around. So as the relationship progressed more little lies came out, you know
like when would call and he wouldnt answer his phone till the third time and
hed say he was at work but really at a mates or at the pub he spend thousands on
the pokies and generally did bugger all around the home, we were behind in the
rent and things were going downhill..but i loved him and he loved me. 7 years
into the relationship, he had an illness which required surgery, he was off work
for months i looked after him and actually enjoyed it...isnt that pathetic, i
finally felt i had some form of control and i liked him being around. But he was
a grumpy man, tired all the time, even before he was sick he was always lazing
around, went to work when he decided to, never paid tax, didnt do chores, was
angry toward the kids..blah blah blah...so...in the end, while he was away i met
someone else and we hit it off, nothing happened and i felt terrible, so i told
him, he needed to stop working away, come home and be with his family. That
statement made no impact on him until i told him i was having feelings for
someone else. With that he quit work, came home and decided to spend his time at
home checking my emails, reading my messages on my phone and calling me to see
where i was every 5 minutes..this ended our relationship for 3 months and
duriing that 3 months i slept with the new man. I felt so bad that the first
thing ii did was tell him.....we ended up getting back together. That lasted a
year, during that year he minded the kids at night while i went to work, minded
them while i was at college and went to work occasionally himself, he complained
that he was doing all the work and getting nothing in exchange, he was angry and
miserable, and i was angry with him because he wouldnt trust me, he made life
hell. I finally snapped and one day drug tested him and that tested positive for
speed and ice. I offered help, kindly, didnt over react, he said it was only
recreational, we fought he left i begged him to come back, he wouldnt, stating
that he couldnt handle me because i was an abusive cow, 3 days later he said he
was ready i said no way. Since then i have found out he is an addict and he
blames it all on me, my actions pushed him to drugs and i worked him too hard.
He felt unloved and unappreciated. Its been 7 months and my heart has been
broken over and over..in that 7 months he has only been to take the kids out
once, the rest of the time he will miss planned visits because of so called
work, and if he does come over he will spend the time questioning the kids about
what mummy has been doing and who with. I am sad. My question is this.....should
i try again to make this work, give him another shot, pay him more attention,
try to understand more, he says he will change when i show him more love and be
the women i used to be.
I have a chance at a new life with a new man, i have actually enjoyed being on
my own for the past 7 months, i have found strength in myself, i believe ii am
ready to move on, the only thing that gets me sometimes is the fact that if i
had of been more loving toward him he may have been a different man...maybe i
started the ball rolling? I dunno im sick of wondering...i know this has been a
long story but really its just a little of the whole story, thanks for taking
the time to read through. Should i just move on now?
Thanks for your great answers and reading such a long question....Its been so
hard and i have had so many thoughts going through my head over and over
again...i just wanna know that i have done my best in this relationship, i never
believed it would end and its hard coming to terms with the shock of finding him
out to be an addict, i think i knew for a while but i was too scared to find out
the truth, i loved this man a lot and he still has his good points, everybody
does. I know i cant change him, i know hes gotta change himself and i feel as
if i should move on, im so sick of being stuck. Thanks again
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"Should i just move on now?" Yes.
You may not have loved him well enough, but it would have been nearly impossible
when he CHOSE to spend most of his time away from you, using "work" as an
excuse, even though he was spending time relaxing by himself - "...more little
lies came out... he'd say he was at work but really at a mates or at the pub..."
Add to that the fact that he would spend thousands on gambling while not meeting
the bills at home "...he spend thousands on the pokies and generally did bugger
all around the home, we were behind in the rent and things were going
downhill...".
Then he was "...a grumpy man, tired all the time, even before he was sick he was
always lazing around, went to work when he decided to, never paid tax, didn't do
chores, was angry toward the kids..blah blah.." and it sounds like he never was
invested in your marriage or the family.
When his illness caused the situation to become reversed he "...complained that
he was doing all the work and getting nothing in exchange..." even though it was
fine with him when it was you doing the hard work, even though you were both
working and attending school at the time?
Then he's using drugs and blaming you for his choice? Sounds like nothings
changed. He did always blame you for all the miseries in his life anyway.
Then he uses this as an excuse to (once again) abandon his family and his
obligations, and you want to know if its really your fault, and if you should
give this yet another try?
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LGBT: Have you ever felt like maybe you were born too many years later than you
should have been?
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<Content>
Like, I find 80's music awesome. I don't really like to hang out with kids my
age, but I do for the fact that, most of my friends are that age (the ones from
school). Everyday, I am finding out something new about those decades, and the
music that existed then, it hits me right in the face. Who knows, maybe one day,
I'll meet someone who feels the same way as me, and I'll introduce them to the
90's music and they'll feel just the same way as I do. I mean after all, I do
have like 8+ nieces and nephews, lol. =)
Denver, you don't know, but you're working your way back into my blocked box...
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 18:09:15</Date>
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<ChosenAnswer>
So you've 'noticed' "SOMETHING"...huh? You should take some Philosophy classes
and 'think on it some more'...it gets 'REAL' interesting...especially if you
have a professor who 'appreciates' "MORE"...
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<Question id="20090502171423AAHEt7n" type="Answered">
<Subject>Why wasn't the Atheist invited?</Subject>
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<Content>
Jeremiah 19: This is what the Lord says: 9 I will make them eat the flesh of
their sons and daughters, Deuteronomy 28: 56 The most gentle and sensitive woman
among youso sensitive and gentle that she would not venture to touch the ground
with the sole of her footwill begrudge the husband she loves and her own son or
daughter 57 the afterbirth from her womb and the children she bears. For she
intends to eat them secretly. 2 Kings 6:26 As the king of Israel was passing by
on the wall, a woman cried to him, "Help me, my lord the king!" 28 Then he asked
her, "What's the matter?" She answered, "This woman said to me, 'Give up your
son so we may eat him today, and tomorrow we'll eat my son.' 29 So we cooked my
son and ate him. The next day I said to her, 'Give up your son so we may eat
him,' but she had hidden him."
Did she hide him away far a snack later on when no one was looking?
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 17:14:23</Date>
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<ChosenAnswer>
The atheist was invited, but didn't show up because they didn't smother them in
barbecue sauce.
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<Question id="20090502163449AAgB7RC" type="Answered">
<Subject>Does my writing suck?</Subject>
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I'm writing this story and I want to know if it sucks.
Now I am a HUGE fan of criticism so please don't be afraid to speak your mind.
No sugar coated comments. lol.
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It was late at night and Derek was exhausted, so exhausted that his eyelids were
heavy and ready to close. He rubbed his eyes with his index finger and forced
himself not to drift off into sleep. He had to stay up. He could not sleep.
That was completely out of the question. There was a test tomorrow and he needed
to study for it since he didn't study all week.
Cramming it all in at the last minute was Derek's personal strategy to success.
He turned a page over in his text book, seeing how the words were getting tinier
and tinier as he continued to read. God this is pointless, Derek thought to
himself as he rubbed his forehead. He hated studying and if he could he would
never study in his life. However, he knew that if he didn't study he would
surely fail that test which would ultimately lead to him faling his freshman
year of college, and he couldn't afford that. Derek actually wanted to be
successful in life.
He looked away from his text book and frowned. There was absolutely no one in
the library at the moment - well there was a guy sitting on the floor while
reading a magazine - but besides him, Derek was the only person there.
---------------
Okay, I didn't post a lot, but that's because I don't want to bore anyone! I
just would like to know how my sentence structure is.
Is my writing choppy and hard to read?
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<Date>2009-05-02 16:34:49</Date>
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<ChosenAnswer>
much better than most of the inane drivel that i read on here, so please
continue.
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<Question id="20090502160609AAKyueZ" type="Answered">
<Subject>can stress make a period late?</Subject>
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i been very stressful lately... i can not quites remeber when i had it last time
.... i been very sick and stressful with college exams and i was just wondering
can it come late because of the stress on my body?
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<Date>2009-05-02 16:06:09</Date>
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<ChosenAnswer>
YES.
I remember a few weeks ago, I wasn't getting my period, and my boyfriend and I
were starting to freak out, we thought I was pregnant, and he told me to relax
(which sounds hard when you are sexually active and you're not getting your
period!). Luckily, the next day I saw blood in the toilet. I now look forward to
periods! I'm blessed for every single one I get now. Sure, they are a drag, but
it sure beats having a child when you can't afford one! (Plus I really don't
want kids. It's a personal reason.)
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<Question id="20090502160343AAbDEu7" type="Answered">
<Subject>Whats the best zombie movie?</Subject>
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I've really been getting into zombie movies lately.
What are the best ones?
Which ones do yall like the most?
And which ones are the cheesiest, that I shouldn't waste my time on.
The ones I've seen already are:
Resident Evil Trilogy
Shaun of the Dead
28 Days Later
I've seen I Am Legend too.
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<Date>2009-05-02 16:03:43</Date>
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<ChosenAnswer>
What are the best ones? Night of the Living Dead, Dawn of the Dead (both the old
and the new), Day of the Dead, 28 days later, Shaun of the Dead, Pet Semetary,
Zombi 2 (coz of the awesome shark biting scene), City of the Living Dead and the
Re-animator for the gore, Dead Alive (aka Braindead) for being the movie with
the most blood ever, more recently, there is Diary of the Dead which is a
documentary-style movie, REC is also very scary and became the basis for the
inferior Quarantine
Which ones do yall like the most? Dawn of the Dead
And which ones are the cheesiest, that I shouldn't waste my time on - There are
so many crap zombie films like Premutos, Dead Snow is upcoming and it doesn't
look nice, Redneck Zombies, Children of the Living Dead, The Incredibly Strange
Creatures Who Stopped Living and Became Mixed-Up Zombies, Pet Semetary 2.
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<Question id="20090502155632AAm1vL2" type="Answered">
<Subject>What was your favorite Birthday Memory?</Subject>
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Mine was today when I came home from the supermarket to find that my closest
friends and family were hiding in my house to suprise me on my Birthday! :)
Lol and after the party ended, My best friends also said they were coming back
later tonight "Kiddnap" me to a Party that they're planning at an unknown
location lol! Now I'm curious about tonight and wondering what your favorite
Birthday Memory is :P
- Avi
Haha, Being "Kidnapped" is fun!
Me and Arie (my Twin) were taken to a friend's house for a night of fun games,
delicious cake and a LOT of people lol!
- Avi
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<Date>2009-05-02 15:56:32</Date>
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<ChosenAnswer>
hahhahhahaha, i remember my twin's hair caught on fire when me and her were
blowning out the candles!!!
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<Subject>poll: can we talk later on da phone?</Subject>
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im alone with Raquel. we are looking 4 people to talk to cuz therez nobody
home...
~ Shiloh
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<ChosenAnswer>Sure, I might pick up.</ChosenAnswer>
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My parents are dependent on me and I'm financially dependent on them..what to
do?
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I am 25 years & still living with my parents. I graduated college last year and
my life & parents life has completely changed since Dec2008 when my sister who
was 26 and working overseas passed away. Now i have become an only child. It
has always been stressful at home bc my parents have always given me a strict
curfew (12am) things has gotten worse now.
i had a retail job but quit after my sister passed away so that i can help out
at home and be with my mother who is a stay at home mother. Now its been 5
months and i feel its time i get my life back on track...but im lacking the
motivation. My parents are in emotional need of me and me in financial need of
them.
My parents have been paying my bills and school loans and it makes me feel very
grateful with my parents and i hope to someday give back to them as much as they
given to them. But at the same time im not happy with my situation, i feel
irritated that i cannot be financially independent.and that i graduated with my
B.A.and dont have a job.
Im so frustrated!! i am now looking for a job and trying to get my life on
track but its hard..I hardly go out bc i feel my parents need me too much. I
help them out as much as i can, and my parents dont have many sincere friends so
if they go out it usally includes me going out with them. For example today is
Saturday and instead of going out with friends like a normal 25 yr old would do
im here with my parents trying to decide where we are going to go. I feel
irritated, and i have this huge thing that makes me feel responsible and bad if
i leave them for too long. I wish they had more friends, activities so that
their world wouldnt revolve what seems like me. I want to go to Vegas with my
bf but i know my parents wont let me stay out for a whole weekend, even if i
wouldnt be spending their money bc my bf would be paying. they just get so
paranoid when im not home, or out late...Ahhh
ever been in my situation, any advice, i know i need to make changes..first get
a job!! but what else can i do, please help. p.s. i turn 26 in july ;(
</Content>
<Date>2009-05-02 15:32:59</Date>
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It sounds like your parents are not coping really well with the loss of their
daughter and have become overprotective of yourself.
While at first you wanted to be the good daughter, it is now becoming too much
of a strain on yourself.
Understandable as everybody copes with loss on an individual base.
You really need to get a job to be able to get some finances for yourself: that
will help you get a place for yourself near your job. Then set a family time for
your parents and one for yourself.
If you want to stay out late, let them know that you will be late because you
want to spend some time with your friends and where you are going if they ask.
There might be some resistance: talk it out in a calm way. Note that they could
call you selfish. If so tell them that you understand their grief but that the
passed events can not make you put your own life in a glass cabinet and that you
are also grieving but need to live.
Ask them what they would like to do on your family time or think of something
fun to do with them yourself.
Try to get your mum to join a local hobby club or learn a new skill.
My mum is 67 and living on her own in Belgium while myself and my sister moved
to the UK: she went on a computer course, is learning French and has learned to
make advanced Belgian lace.
She is also always busy with card making and gardening.
She misses us a lot but we speak on the phone almost all the time.
She sometimes comes and sees us in the UK and we sometimes go back home
ourselves.
She does feel lonely and misses us a lot but understands that we need to make
our own lives.
I understand that and try to accomodate that: we have become even closer since
we are living far away.
You just need to take the first step: they will come around. Let them know that
you are safe.
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well, its kind of a sad story. we found a cute puppy in the streets and my son
picked him up, so we asked ourselves why would a nice puppy be lost or thrown
away, so we took her in. the thing is that a few days later we found out that
the puppy was not normal, she would go crazy and do the merry go round for a
long while and then run like crazy and destroy everything, she would rip things
tear down things, chew on everything and attack our other animals, she would
also bring dirt after digging so much and garbage all around the house, its like
a non stop tornado. so we couldn't deal with her and had no control over her, so
I gave it to some neighboors that had a bunch of kids and they kept the dog for
a few days and then dumped the dog on back to the streets and she ended home
again. we couldn't deal with the puppy so I wanted to call the animal shelter
and my mom (which is sick and cant take care of the dog, neither my son who is
too young and I travel alot) said not to call the shelter because they will kill
the dog or starve him to death and torture her (because this is not in the US,
its in PR) and the animal shelter system is a dump and known for animal cruelty,
but I didnt know this until my mom told me. so we ended up putting the dog on
the streets near a nice neighborhood to see if someone can really take care of
her. I think this was not a normal dog. can dogs be autistic or have a extreme
bad behavior that you cant deal with them, like a psycho dog or something?
vets are too expensive over here and we tried to put her on a leach but she
would somehow get loose or try to choke a few times and we saved her life. we
just had no control and my mom says this dog may have extreme mental behavior
problems. is this true?
nikko not to disrespect you, but I didnt want to throw the dog out. but if your
mom was in a wheel chair for life and cant barely move, your son was 3 and you
have to travel for months and your son its in daycare with other relatives that
cant have or care for dogs and your mom its with a nurse who does not feed dogs
because thats not her job, then how were we suppose to take care of it. this is
not heavenly US or a modern country so put yourself in my life and shoes and see
if you can either let go of the dog to be free, put her in a shelter to get
tortured or starve the dog to death because you cant take care of it. choose of
the 3 options and please get back to me.
Yodel: PR is a US territory but its way different in terms of caring for
animals, well once there was an outrage in the news because the shelters were so
full of animals that people didnt want that some were thrown freely to the
streets and some were put alive in bags and thrown down a huge bridge and drawn
to death, it was the most cruel and heartless thing I ever heard and saw in the
news, so shelter its not an option.
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Short answer- yes, dogs can indeed have "mental" problems akin to what we'd
label a "psychosis" in a human. It's fairly rare. I've seen it once, in a Toy
Poodle when I worked for a veterinarian. Constant bizarre, unsettling
behavior....fluctuating from rage to hysteria to "cuddly" affection and right
back to full-blown rage....all within a span of 5 minutes, with no triggers.
I'll never forget it.
It's hard for anybody to accurately "label" the behavior you saw from the little
stray dog. Could have been a mental problem....brain damage from a car injury;
brain damage from consuming something poisonous- both reasonable hazards for a
stray dog. Could have been born that way.
It could have also been an extreme example of a behavior problem compounded by
hyperactivity. A dog with no training and a "rough" upbringing....it's very
hard to say without seeing her behavior, whether she was just stressed and
confused from her lifestyle, lacking direction and training, or if she was
genuinely "mentally disturbed".
It's a shame there wasn't any safe place you could take her....I didn't know PR
was so far behind the US in terms of animal care standards? Are there any
independent dog rescue groups in PR? Maybe if you could find enough dog-loving
people in your community you could organize an effort to either clean up the
shelter or form a volunteer-run dog rescue group. Just an idea if you're
feeling ambitious today :)
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